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Spouse Series: The New Boss in Town

by Janet Farley,Contributing Editor

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Some of the following tips may help you and your military family transition to the new guy at the top and whatever his time in office will bring.

1. Let it go. It being, of course, any existing expectations you may have developed and become comfortable with under previous management. There’s a new sheriff in town, and things might stay the same and they might not. They may even get better. You just won’t know until POTUS gets his proverbial feet wet and develops an understanding of the job before him.

On one level, this election year is similar to every other election year. It’s painful for somebody. Like the experience of childbirth, a choice can be made to forget the pain and get pregnant again.

Good thing you’re well skilled in managing the art of uncertainty because it’s here to stay. Again.

2. If you don’t like something, say something. If you don’t agree with the words coming down from the upper echelons of your world, that’s okay. As a military family member, you have a right to be vocal about that. Use your own words and try to make things better. You can do that.

If, on the other hand, you’re wearing the uniform, then, yay you for the time being. You know that while your job ensures our democracy, it doesn’t always do a lot for your own personal sense of it.

While you may not be able to be as vocal as you’d like to be now, that doesn’t mean you can’t voice your thoughts in the right way in the right setting. You’re suave like that.

Perhaps your voice can even be heard a little louder when you retire or transition out. In fact, why don’t you run for office in your post-military life so we can create all new memes?

3. Adapt and overcome. It’s not just a military concept. It’s a life concept. Whether you’re happy about who the new Commander in Chief is or not, there’s no changing the facts. Now get on board if you’re not already there, and let’s do this thing!

In the end, you may not work in the Oval Office, but you do, however, still have the ability to affect positive change there and anywhere for that matter.

Think globally. Act locally. It’s how we, the people, get stuff done.

Janet Farley, Ed.M. is a freelance writer based in Colorado Springs, Colorado. She is also the author a several career related books targeted to the military. Her most recent book is Military Life 101: Basic Training for New Military Families (Rowman & Littlefield, 2016). Visit her online at

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